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Am I setting boundaries or punishing my family?
The fact that you're asking says a lot already.
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The AI connects your current relationship patterns and emotional responses to the family system you grew up in.
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When you visit your parents, how long before you feel like a different version of yourself?
Within minutes — I shrink or perform as soon as I walk in
It's gradual, but by day two I'm acting like I'm 15 again
I mostly stay myself, but certain topics make me shut down
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Your family home is a time machine. The version of you that walks through that door isn't weak — it's the version that learned exactly how to survive that environment, and it still boots up the second it recognizes the setting.